Just because I'm a victim of abuse doesn't mean I'm willing to deal with anything.
So I'm at a local bar with some girls i know. One of them wants me to go to a guy's apartment nearby and I go because there's a guy I'm interested in.
We are sitting there, vibing. But you say something and he says "Just sit there and be pretty." I don't know why but this set me the ef off. Like excuse me?? I'm more than a pretty face. I have a fucking master's degree! I have a major problem with a man thinking it is ok to speak to a woman like that. I have a problem with a man thinking a woman should be "just a pretty face".
Maybe my experience has made me realize a real man should appreciate a woman, should embrace all a woman has to offer, and should never, i repeat, NEVER, tell a woman she should be less than what she is or think he has the right to "hush" her. I was treated like this behavior was ok and that i was the one overreacting but I refuse to believe that. If a man cannot completely respect me, then he isn't the one for me. If this attitude results in me being single, then I'm ok with that. I WILL NOT let another human being make me feel inferior!
There's a good chance I overreacted but there is principle behind this! When the hell did it become okay to speak to a woman like that? Why is it that we are expected to excuse his behavior and words and act like we are at fault for standing up for ourselves?? Why was I to blame for my reaction but he was just "joking" with his behavior? Why is that ok??? I just cannot understand why we tell each other, as women, that it's ok to for a man to speak to a woman that way. I don't understand why I was basically told to stop and get over it and yet he was allowed to say whatever. Why is this standard??
Again, maybe it's the feminist in me speaking but I am just NOT ok with it. And I don't think anyone can make me think "maybe this is the guy for me". I don't care if it helps you get your guy, I don't ever want to be spoken to that way. If I wasn't in on the joke, IT'S NOT FUNNY!!
I don't know if anyone will read this, but if you do, please, please. PLEASE know YOU ARE ENOUGH all on your own!
